Wow! A whole year gone?! Already?
It was a hard year - but it was a lesson, well-learned.
Lost a lot of famous people, the unbelievable happened, and just...everything that could go wrong, DID.
Right now, for me...is a time to reflect what I got accomplished and what I need to work on.
Got a lot done this year:
-cleaned up my credit
-got a new car
-stuck it out with the job (until something better presents itself)
-went back to my home church
-learned how to be quiet and LISTEN
-spent boocoos of time with the little boy (y'all, he is a trip!!!)
-better to be seen...and let God handle the showing and the telling
But with good, comes bad, and there were some bad that was pointed out:
-habits I've dealt with most of my life have been brought to the forefront for me to settle, once and for all
-behaviors that I've passed off as my own special "quirks", that caused the separation and breakup of a...friendship(? - still working on that)
-stuff I let go of, and shouldn't have, that I need to pick back up again (like this blog)
-make amends and repair the relationship with the love of my life
I don't know what 2017 is going to bring. My prayer for the next year: that God bring me wisdom to be better and DO better, understanding to know what to do with the wisdom, and knowledge to help me overcome what I don't know. I need to learn how to stay silent, until I hear God speak - THEN, move. And that's it's okay to play the background - who I am and what my abilities are will shine when needed and necessary - and that's cool, too.
I know what 2016 taught me: to embrace and love who I am, to feel what I feel without shame or condemnation - for after all, they are MY feelings (right and wrong), and not always feel the need to express it, but when I do - state it CLEARLY.
Like Petey Pablo stated: "I been workin' at it ever since I came to this planet/And I ain't quite there yet but I'm gettin' better at it."
I didn't like you, 2016, but you made me better.
Thanks (I think).
Tuesday, December 6, 2016
Wednesday, November 2, 2016
What I Will and WILL NOT Miss About 2016....
2016 shall go down in INFAMY, as far as I'm concerned.
2016 was the year that decided: "y'know...I'on e'en care! I'm fend to be TRILL!!"
And, in true TRILL fashion - 2016 came and showed it's bright red hind end quarters! We can't even ask for a "do-over"...
Do I understand that there are still 2 months, 60 some odd days to go before it's over?
Yes.
Do I understand that BECAUSE it's not over, it's gonna keep on with the effery?
UNFORTUNATELY, Yes.
Right through here, however, I give the same amount of care that 2016 gave me: 0 F's and D's.
It's not even about the PERSONAL ish that I had to deal with this year, that made it unbearable.
It was the stuff happening errywhere else that was keeping me in my feeling this year!!! Can I take a Ambien and sleep the rest of 2016 away?
Anyways, here's my list....
WHAT I WILL NOT MISS!!
-Orange. Satan. ('nuf ced.)
-Political Advertisements rehashing the grabbing of female genitalia (nope, bye!)
-White Privilege, White tears, White washing.... (oooh, I need y'all to hit the bricks!!!)
-All the damb obits this year!!! Muhammad Ali, David Bowie, Maurice White, Daryl Coley, Phife Dawg "The 5 ft. Assassin", Alan "Severus Snape" Rickman, Gary Shandling, Natalie Cole, Anton "Chekov" Yelchin, Gene Wilder, Patty Duke, Elie Wiesel, Tommy "You Ain't GOT no job" Ford, Bill "Radio Raheem" Nunn, Vanity, Nancy Reagan, Harper Lee, Glenn Frey....there's more, but I'm not going there!
-Y'ALL...we ain't even get a chance to say goodbye to PRINCE, they just buried him with no drama and pomp and circumstance (W.T.F. - I wanted my doves and Purple casket!!)
-all the Black men and women that were killed in 2016 ALONE...I can't even put the names on here...may shoot the screen if I did. #itstooMUCH
-Them emails, tho'... #comeyyousnitch
-these "new" Black people who have never experienced racism: yeah, I'm side-eyeing you Lil Wayne and Cam Newton...
-Ryan Lochte...just gwan embarrass yo' country sommore....
-The police. Not the band, the national organized gang in blue... not all of you, either, but some of your "bruhz in blue" need to rest a spell or 10... #blacklivesmatter
WHAT I WILL MISS
- PRESIDENT Barack Hussein Obama and his beautiful wife, FIRST LADY Michelle LaVaughn Robinson Obama, and their beautiful, well-mannered, smart and gifted daughters: Malia and Sasha Obama, and Grandmother Marian Robinson and Bo and Sunny Obama. (Can we get 4 more, please?)
-Clapbacks and Receipts!! Whoooooooo!!! Errbody was handing 'em out left to right! And it was needed and necessary!!! I look forward to what the new year will bring...
-BLACK PRIDE!!! We as a people came thru - and aimed HIGHER this year. We are now HELL BENT ON IMPROVING OUR STATUS QUO. That's a good thing.
IJS.
2016 was the year that decided: "y'know...I'on e'en care! I'm fend to be TRILL!!"
And, in true TRILL fashion - 2016 came and showed it's bright red hind end quarters! We can't even ask for a "do-over"...
Do I understand that there are still 2 months, 60 some odd days to go before it's over?
Yes.
Do I understand that BECAUSE it's not over, it's gonna keep on with the effery?
UNFORTUNATELY, Yes.
Right through here, however, I give the same amount of care that 2016 gave me: 0 F's and D's.
It's not even about the PERSONAL ish that I had to deal with this year, that made it unbearable.
It was the stuff happening errywhere else that was keeping me in my feeling this year!!! Can I take a Ambien and sleep the rest of 2016 away?
Anyways, here's my list....
WHAT I WILL NOT MISS!!
-Orange. Satan. ('nuf ced.)
-Political Advertisements rehashing the grabbing of female genitalia (nope, bye!)
-White Privilege, White tears, White washing.... (oooh, I need y'all to hit the bricks!!!)
-All the damb obits this year!!! Muhammad Ali, David Bowie, Maurice White, Daryl Coley, Phife Dawg "The 5 ft. Assassin", Alan "Severus Snape" Rickman, Gary Shandling, Natalie Cole, Anton "Chekov" Yelchin, Gene Wilder, Patty Duke, Elie Wiesel, Tommy "You Ain't GOT no job" Ford, Bill "Radio Raheem" Nunn, Vanity, Nancy Reagan, Harper Lee, Glenn Frey....there's more, but I'm not going there!
-Y'ALL...we ain't even get a chance to say goodbye to PRINCE, they just buried him with no drama and pomp and circumstance (W.T.F. - I wanted my doves and Purple casket!!)
-all the Black men and women that were killed in 2016 ALONE...I can't even put the names on here...may shoot the screen if I did. #itstooMUCH
-Them emails, tho'... #comeyyousnitch
-these "new" Black people who have never experienced racism: yeah, I'm side-eyeing you Lil Wayne and Cam Newton...
-Ryan Lochte...just gwan embarrass yo' country sommore....
-The police. Not the band, the national organized gang in blue... not all of you, either, but some of your "bruhz in blue" need to rest a spell or 10... #blacklivesmatter
WHAT I WILL MISS
- PRESIDENT Barack Hussein Obama and his beautiful wife, FIRST LADY Michelle LaVaughn Robinson Obama, and their beautiful, well-mannered, smart and gifted daughters: Malia and Sasha Obama, and Grandmother Marian Robinson and Bo and Sunny Obama. (Can we get 4 more, please?)
-Clapbacks and Receipts!! Whoooooooo!!! Errbody was handing 'em out left to right! And it was needed and necessary!!! I look forward to what the new year will bring...
-BLACK PRIDE!!! We as a people came thru - and aimed HIGHER this year. We are now HELL BENT ON IMPROVING OUR STATUS QUO. That's a good thing.
IJS.
Saturday, October 1, 2016
Dedication to Your Passion
I like to write. I like that I have a creative mind, and sometimes I let it off the leash.
There's a quote that says if you love doing something and you get paid to do it, you will never work a day in your life.
Now, if I can get the ideas out, and get this book out.
IJS
There's a quote that says if you love doing something and you get paid to do it, you will never work a day in your life.
Now, if I can get the ideas out, and get this book out.
IJS
Thursday, September 29, 2016
Mark Your Words
I like to laugh and be funny. I like the clapback portion of events. I like giving the witty and clever comeback line. It's one of my more charming traits.
One of my friends told me that right now, I am on 0 chill, because of the debate and the trumping of Orange satan.
Which is true, I am very geeked about it. I have not held back shade or tea. I have been quite vocal about certain current events, even on this blog and elsewhere on social media.
But what happens when well-meaning humor and shade-throwing descends into degradation, embarrassment and humiliation? What happens when funny starts being malicious?
How far is too far? Do we even know if we've gone too far?
Case in point: the Miss Universe contestant who was dragged publicly for gaining weight while during her reign. Now we find out she had an eating disorder. And the words that were thrown at her during this time were hurtful, malicious and straight out wrong. Is the person who made these remarks to her, who we want sitting in the most powerful seat in the world?
I know what it's like to be embarrassed by someone pointing out my foibles, mistakes and ineptitude.
In public. In front of 40+ people. Loud, and very pointedly.
The person who did it, wanted to make me an example. And she did so, very vocally, to the point, ya'll I had to go in the bathroom and cry and ask God to help me please.
Why? Because one part of me was sooooo embarrassed, I never wanted to show my face again. And the rowdy part of me wanted to toss caution to the wind and give her....well, you know....THE BUSINESS! I think that was the part I was praying more for, so I would keep my cool.
The outcome? Let's just say that karma will run you over, in the end.
Two weeks later, she made the recommendation that cost me my job.
But it paled in comparison, to what happened to her and her family. I would never wish what happened to her, on my worst enemy. I don't work like that. That does not make me happy, and I didn't rejoice in it. I prayed for her. To this day, I still pray for her and her family.
I speak on some things, hold my peace in others. I will comment here and there.
For me, you get dragged when what you've done has caused HARM to those that I love, or who are DEFENSELESS. Don't bring kids and the elderly into this.
And if you're wrong, you're just wrong.
If you want correction, go to God, and ask Him for it. He will be more than happy to do it for you. Ask me how I know.
Some of the most painful lessons I learned were when God had to show me my errors through my embarrassment, my pride, my shooting off my mouth when not needed or necessary (especially when I was pointing out others' errors).
But when correction came, it made me understand that I could have all the fun I wanted, but in the end, what matters is how I made someone feel. And if it were caused by my words and actions, then I needed to deal with what was missing in me that made me do it, say it, or speak it.
Ladies and gentlemen, your words count. They can maim, they can cut, they wound and bruise. Take some time, and reflect on what you say. Think, then speak.
And sometimes, you don't need to comment on every. Little. Thing.
Hard lesson learned.
IJS
One of my friends told me that right now, I am on 0 chill, because of the debate and the trumping of Orange satan.
Which is true, I am very geeked about it. I have not held back shade or tea. I have been quite vocal about certain current events, even on this blog and elsewhere on social media.
But what happens when well-meaning humor and shade-throwing descends into degradation, embarrassment and humiliation? What happens when funny starts being malicious?
How far is too far? Do we even know if we've gone too far?
Case in point: the Miss Universe contestant who was dragged publicly for gaining weight while during her reign. Now we find out she had an eating disorder. And the words that were thrown at her during this time were hurtful, malicious and straight out wrong. Is the person who made these remarks to her, who we want sitting in the most powerful seat in the world?
I know what it's like to be embarrassed by someone pointing out my foibles, mistakes and ineptitude.
In public. In front of 40+ people. Loud, and very pointedly.
The person who did it, wanted to make me an example. And she did so, very vocally, to the point, ya'll I had to go in the bathroom and cry and ask God to help me please.
Why? Because one part of me was sooooo embarrassed, I never wanted to show my face again. And the rowdy part of me wanted to toss caution to the wind and give her....well, you know....THE BUSINESS! I think that was the part I was praying more for, so I would keep my cool.
The outcome? Let's just say that karma will run you over, in the end.
Two weeks later, she made the recommendation that cost me my job.
But it paled in comparison, to what happened to her and her family. I would never wish what happened to her, on my worst enemy. I don't work like that. That does not make me happy, and I didn't rejoice in it. I prayed for her. To this day, I still pray for her and her family.
I speak on some things, hold my peace in others. I will comment here and there.
For me, you get dragged when what you've done has caused HARM to those that I love, or who are DEFENSELESS. Don't bring kids and the elderly into this.
And if you're wrong, you're just wrong.
If you want correction, go to God, and ask Him for it. He will be more than happy to do it for you. Ask me how I know.
Some of the most painful lessons I learned were when God had to show me my errors through my embarrassment, my pride, my shooting off my mouth when not needed or necessary (especially when I was pointing out others' errors).
But when correction came, it made me understand that I could have all the fun I wanted, but in the end, what matters is how I made someone feel. And if it were caused by my words and actions, then I needed to deal with what was missing in me that made me do it, say it, or speak it.
Ladies and gentlemen, your words count. They can maim, they can cut, they wound and bruise. Take some time, and reflect on what you say. Think, then speak.
And sometimes, you don't need to comment on every. Little. Thing.
Hard lesson learned.
IJS
Wednesday, September 28, 2016
By Any Means Necessary!
I have a very short and simple message today. If you are over the age of 18, have not
committed a felony, and can read, and you have not done so already:
GO AND REGISTER TO VOTE!
Deadline is October 11th. You have more than 2 weeks. Get. This. Done.
Websites to use:
IJS.
Tuesday, September 27, 2016
The Morning After
I cannot even BEGIN to explain the joy in my soul this day.
The con artist was caught dead-handed.
The joker LITERALLY got trumped. (see that?)
The emperor was exposed for having on NO CLOTHES (and no brains) last night.
And over 100 million people were witnesses to that fact.
The pundits are talking, the analysts are debating, and so on....
The fact-checkers did their jobs. TREMENDOUSLY, I might add.
But the best comment that I heard was this one:
"A debate isn’t a reality show. It’s a job interview. What Trump’s and Clinton’s performance Monday tells us about their possible performance in office."
So, in that order:
Job Interview for the President of the United States - Applicant #1
Sniffling ALL during the interview: REJECTED
Talking over the interviewer: REJECTED
Not answering the question: REJECTED...
Appearance: REJECTED x 1000
Insulting the other applicants: REJECTED
Qualifications: REJECTED, with receipts (how many bankruptcies?)
Overall ruling: not today, Orange satan, not today, tomorrow or EVER.
Job Interview for the President of the United States - Applicant #2
Greeted the interviewer and the other applicants: CHECK
Stayed calm and composed, even during accusations: CHECK
Answered ALL the questions, even the ones that HURT: CHECK x 1000 ("I made a mistake")
Appearance: other than them kitten heels, CHECK
Fact-checked the other applicant so hard, he stumbled for the rest of the debate: BODY. CHECK.
Qualifications:
Senator - CHECK ONE
Secretary of State - CHECK TWO
Wife of a FORMER PRESIDENT - CHECK THREE
Overall ruling: Y'all... I'm With Her.
IJS
The con artist was caught dead-handed.
The joker LITERALLY got trumped. (see that?)
The emperor was exposed for having on NO CLOTHES (and no brains) last night.
And over 100 million people were witnesses to that fact.
The pundits are talking, the analysts are debating, and so on....
The fact-checkers did their jobs. TREMENDOUSLY, I might add.
But the best comment that I heard was this one:
"A debate isn’t a reality show. It’s a job interview. What Trump’s and Clinton’s performance Monday tells us about their possible performance in office."
So, in that order:
Job Interview for the President of the United States - Applicant #1
Sniffling ALL during the interview: REJECTED
Talking over the interviewer: REJECTED
Not answering the question: REJECTED...
Appearance: REJECTED x 1000
Insulting the other applicants: REJECTED
Qualifications: REJECTED, with receipts (how many bankruptcies?)
Overall ruling: not today, Orange satan, not today, tomorrow or EVER.
Job Interview for the President of the United States - Applicant #2
Greeted the interviewer and the other applicants: CHECK
Stayed calm and composed, even during accusations: CHECK
Answered ALL the questions, even the ones that HURT: CHECK x 1000 ("I made a mistake")
Appearance: other than them kitten heels, CHECK
Fact-checked the other applicant so hard, he stumbled for the rest of the debate: BODY. CHECK.
Qualifications:
Senator - CHECK ONE
Secretary of State - CHECK TWO
Wife of a FORMER PRESIDENT - CHECK THREE
Overall ruling: Y'all... I'm With Her.
IJS
Monday, September 26, 2016
The Boycott Plan
Y'all, help me out a minute....
I know that on today, we were asked by Isaiah Washington to not go into work, and not spend any money today, as a boycott for all the police murders and abuse of Black men and women that have transpired over the past 2-3 YEARS.
I'm sorry, but unless you have your own business that you run, or you have a job where you can arbitrarily can just take a day off (like civil service jobs) - if you, as I do, work in the private sector - you cannot take a random day off without consequence of reprimand or loss of job and income.
Does this mean that I don't support the movement? Not at all.
I just wished they had planned it better.
So, to the authors, architects and constructors of the boycott, here are some ideas for the next boycott:
1) Make it tangible - not spending money in places that don't give a damb about us, I'm all down for it. But if you REALLY wanna send a message: stop going to football games, stop buying overpriced coffees and lattes, stop going to the fast food restaurants and sit-down restaurants, stop going into clothing stores that don't cater to our sizes and our culture, and for GOD's sake - stop going to concerts and watching TV shows and movies that the actors/artists/singers/musicians are not WOKE!!(yeah, I'm throwing shade at you, Fantasia!!)
2) Make it a day that is historical in our minds, and give us some warning time before we do it. Because if you're gonna ask me to take a day off from work - it needs to be memorable. Example: somewhere around the Juneteenth celebrations. Make sure that if I am going to take a PTO for this, I'm doing something with it: marching, building up my community, reaching out. I don't wanna be sitting at home with nuffin to do.
3) If you're gonna boycott the holidays, give some alternatives: if there is a Black-owned food company that can cater Thanksgiving/Christmas turkeys, hams, ribs and ALL the fixings for us, set up a website, make it affordable and get it out on social media. That way, Black $$ go back to Black businesses. And if we necessarily have to go to a grocery store, give us a list of proscribed companies that we can go to that have been approved. Myself, I think I may start going to the farmer's market for some of my food items.
This is in an effort to ensure: we make our UNITED voices HEARD, instead of a few just screaming out in the wind to no avail.
IJS
I know that on today, we were asked by Isaiah Washington to not go into work, and not spend any money today, as a boycott for all the police murders and abuse of Black men and women that have transpired over the past 2-3 YEARS.
I'm sorry, but unless you have your own business that you run, or you have a job where you can arbitrarily can just take a day off (like civil service jobs) - if you, as I do, work in the private sector - you cannot take a random day off without consequence of reprimand or loss of job and income.
Does this mean that I don't support the movement? Not at all.
I just wished they had planned it better.
So, to the authors, architects and constructors of the boycott, here are some ideas for the next boycott:
1) Make it tangible - not spending money in places that don't give a damb about us, I'm all down for it. But if you REALLY wanna send a message: stop going to football games, stop buying overpriced coffees and lattes, stop going to the fast food restaurants and sit-down restaurants, stop going into clothing stores that don't cater to our sizes and our culture, and for GOD's sake - stop going to concerts and watching TV shows and movies that the actors/artists/singers/musicians are not WOKE!!(yeah, I'm throwing shade at you, Fantasia!!)
2) Make it a day that is historical in our minds, and give us some warning time before we do it. Because if you're gonna ask me to take a day off from work - it needs to be memorable. Example: somewhere around the Juneteenth celebrations. Make sure that if I am going to take a PTO for this, I'm doing something with it: marching, building up my community, reaching out. I don't wanna be sitting at home with nuffin to do.
3) If you're gonna boycott the holidays, give some alternatives: if there is a Black-owned food company that can cater Thanksgiving/Christmas turkeys, hams, ribs and ALL the fixings for us, set up a website, make it affordable and get it out on social media. That way, Black $$ go back to Black businesses. And if we necessarily have to go to a grocery store, give us a list of proscribed companies that we can go to that have been approved. Myself, I think I may start going to the farmer's market for some of my food items.
This is in an effort to ensure: we make our UNITED voices HEARD, instead of a few just screaming out in the wind to no avail.
IJS
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